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The English language is very limited in describing love. The Greeks did it better.

Eros, or romantic/passionate love, is all that Ani and Vanya ever shared. The closest English term to this is "in love".

The basis of this for Vanya is the attention Ani gave him. That was easily replaceable for him.

Unfortunately for Anora, the basis of her attraction was not so easily replaceable (the care he showed her facilitated by his riches). His Eros was extinguished before hers, resulting in cinematic tragedy.

The love you describe as knitted together is described by the Greek word pragma, commonly seen in long term partners who have built a life and experienced good and bad times together.

My point is this: Eros is transient and fleeting, fickle and often unexplainable. Do not anchor your hopes and dreams on Eros. In a long term relationship Eros comes and goes, and certainly enriches a relationship, but is not the basis of it. Certainly do not confuse Eros for other types of love.

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In English, I've often heard it worded as "passionate love" (Eros) vs. "companionate love" (pragma). The latter can't exist with the former, but the former can fizzle before it develops into the latter, if the love isn't able to survive the bad times as well as the good.

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"love as a marketplace when it should be an orchestra" is an absolute banger............

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aw thank you!!! <3

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The last 5 paragraphs, the last 5 paragraphs, Madison, laid out for ‘almost like heartbreak’ reflection if we were ever like Anora who seems in genuine love - instant kind of love - mutual, easy attraction, BUT actually just some brief naive romances in our 'supposedly mature' 20s, not only experienced as part of our adolescence phase. Whilst Lana Del Rey's This Is What Makes Us Girls playing in our head.

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just watched this movie, the ending was so heartbreaking the way it's shows how hard it can be for someone to change their ways of thinking. i think of big thief's song "real love" when they say

"Real love makes your lungs black

Real love is a heart attack"

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Beautifully written as always ❤️

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